Love.

Theorizing about love is a thankless task. But writing poems, stories, letters is a completely different thing. After all, no one has ever been able to measure the power of love by the methods of science, to evaluate its "authenticity". Here, for example, is the topic of late love. How much does it differ from "young"? And in general, what kind of love is considered late? *** who have not even reached the age of 50, who have recently experienced the happiness of love, called it "late". But let me, because the age of up to 60 years is included in the life stage of "maturity", and certainly not "old age"! Perhaps the fact is that the lovers themselves talk about it very similarly: "This love is the brightest that has only been in my life. There inevitably comes a time that is called the "empty nest" syndrome — the beginning of an independent life of a child, for example, when student children leave to study and then work. At this time, the spouses need to learn how to live together again, something to fill the void formed with the departure of the child from the family. If the spouses have common hobbies, they are interested in being with each other, then the acute period of life adjustment ends for the family without "losses". But it also happens that the spouses realize that they "lived together for the sake of children", remember past loves and relationships that were not realized because of a sense of duty to the family. And then there is an impulse: the task is completed, you can be free! And there comes a "late" love... With this problem, abandoned wives most often turn to a psychologist. Are men really more likely to succumb to the charm of a new late love? Reliable statistics on this issue could not be found. But in the practice of online consultations on ten questions on the topic " The children have grown up, and the husband has left, what should I do now?" there are only one or two questions ("I'm 50 years old, and I fell in love") from women who are married. The problem of abandoned partners is the flip side of late love. A person who was abandoned at a very *** age, who wanted to live in this marriage "until death separates us", is experiencing tremendous stress and may not recover for a relationship with a new partner. The question of who to be with, with a new love or with a spouse, is acute at any age. Here, inflexibility, constancy in habits, in everyday life, and way of life are especially strongly manifested, and *** who have tried to start living with a new person face this. As a rule, the family has "acquired" material goods by this time, and losing or dividing them is perceived as a difficult legal and extremely costly matter in terms of mental costs. Both the spouse, for whom this marriage remains the "last hope", and the children, for whom the separation of parents is always stressful, are under pressure. All these reasons lead to the fact that a person returns to the family, acutely experiencing both unhappy love and the need to be with an unloved spouse until the end of his days. And late love always remains the brightest experience of *** years, although without hope of continuation.

 

WHEN THE PATH IS FREE, relationships develop differently for *** who have been divorced or widowed for a long time. It would seem that nothing prevents them from getting married again or getting married, but is it so easy to do it? Some *** reject the very idea of love for two directly opposite reasons: "Why do I need more problems in my old age?" and "I will not meet such a person as he (or she) anymore!". All the others, who are not so traumatized by the marriage and do not idealize the past partner, are potentially ready for a new relationship. However, this relationship can not always be called love. Sometimes we are talking about" convenient " unions of two ***. It is unbearable for someone to live alone and it is necessary that there is a person with whom you can talk, feel needed. *** with a hedonistic orientation (focusing on pleasure and convenience) need someone to constantly take care of them, satisfying all their needs. It is not uncommon to observe such *** newly created couples: a hedonist man and a woman with an intolerance of loneliness. Well, these relationships have the right to exist, but they have nothing to do with love. As *** get older, the need to be interesting to others is no less. Moreover, in order for the process to be successful, they have accumulated a baggage of wisdom that allows them to be more tolerant of their partner, as well as communication skills honed over the years. All this plus the "readiness for love" creates an excellent basis for a new relationship.

 

***, OLD AGE AND DEATH Late adulthood and old age is a time when a person thinks especially deeply about life, analyzes his own place in it, sums up the results. Recognizing the inevitability of our death and those we love, we subconsciously try to separate ourselves from all the horror associated with it. At the same time, *** acquires a special, mystical meaning in this process. But it is wrong to believe that late love is just a sexual attraction, a kind of talisman of youth, although the role of *** at this age should not be underestimated. Late love allows you to" agree "with the rest of the givens of being: loneliness is "treated" by the birth of a new "we", love gives prospects for the future, filling life with meaning. Therefore, love at a late age is a wonderful opportunity to overcome the negative experiences associated with aging, to improve the quality of life. This is not nonsense at all, not an oddity, but the right way to a healthy psyche, to preserve the youth of the spirit.

 

AND A LITTLE MORE ABOUT LOVE... Love that came to a person late is especially appreciated and is often perceived not only as "late", but also as "last". That is why the emotions are so acute and I want to keep it so much. Love is not just a feeling, it is also a work on a feeling. You need to take care of it carefully, like with a flower: take care of it, take care of it. If you are still young and your parents (or even grandparents) are experiencing such a feeling, be delicate. Do not *** the tender sprout.

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